Month: September 2018

The real reason FG turned 18!

This past Friday First Glance turned 18!  Honestly, my life wouldn’t be the same without First Glance!  Although I typically talk about what I’ve learned or crazy memories from the years, this year I want to talk about one of the main reasons First Glance is where it is today.  A lot of people give me credit since I’m the director, but the real reason I am the Director is because of this one individual, Karen Freeman.

I met Karen when I was all of 19 years old, before First Glance was even a thought in my mind.  She was old enough to be my mom, but we don’t really talk about that, mainly because she  never treated me like I was a kid.  She was the first person to back me when I said I wanted to host a program outside the walls of the church.  Together we had a desire to do this because people who don’t go to church, don’t go to church.

It was Karen that suggested we host First Glance in Kenmore.  After a few meetings with each other and a couple visits to the local community center, we were a team. Little did we know what all we would experience together over the years.  On September 14th, 2000 Karen and I opened the community center doors with 4 leaders, 2 sheet pizzas and some inflatable couches.  Little did we know, that night we had just founded First Glance.

From the moment we decided to start First Glance until now, I have been shocked and amazed how much Karen would teach, lead, support, and encourage me.  Karen was the first volunteer who’s number I had memorized because I called her most every day.  Seriously, every day.  I ran most ideas, problems, and questions by her.  Over time she encouraged me in my leadership skills and ownership of First Glance, while she eventually started the Teen Moms program.  Although in separate roles she remained my largest support and often coached me along the way.

People often give me credit for what happened 18 years ago, but the person behind me was Karen the whole time!  And so this years list of 18 goes to Karen, although there is no way to encompass all that we have experienced together over these years.

Lessons I learned from her along the way:

  1. To dream big.  Lunches together usually ended in new, big ideas.
  2. To speak and communicate the vision.  Karen did this well, clearly articulating how an individual fit into this major master plan of God’s.
  3. How to navigate upset volunteers, community members, or parents.
  4. How to ask bold questions to the students.
  5. Sadly, how to host a funeral dinner.  We did more than we would like to admit.
  6. That bribing is a great tool to use.
  7. To find the joy where you can and laugh as much as possible.
  8. To pray when it’s hard. Because sometimes it’s the only thing we can do.
  9. How to keep a straight face when the task or conversation before you makes your jaw want to drop open.
  10. That God will give us joy and help us through the sorrow, as she battled cancer and I lost Enoch.

The fun we had:

  1. Post FG hot tub nights for the first two years of FG.
  2. A crazy night at FG that we just labeled “thong night.”
  3. Road trips staying up way too late with students.
  4. And random road trips where Karen loses the toll ticket.
  5. Breaking up fights, which isn’t typically fun, but there were some funny stories.
  6. Creating giant leaf and popcorn pits, never quite learning our lesson on how much work it was to clean up.
  7. Getting the bat out of Teen Moms.
  8. Putting our offices directly across from each other on purpose.

Through it all, so much joy, encouragement and a lifelong freindship was created.

Last year Karen stepped down as the director of Teen Moms at First Glance.  The minute she told me, tears streamed down my face, and I wouldn’t let the FG staff even mention it for a solid four weeks.  It’s been almost a year since God moved Karen to a different ministry (who we partner with and still is in Kenmore).  It’s taken me this long to finally be able to write this post.  There really are no words for all that Karen has done for me and ultimately for First Glance!  So when you want to give me credit for all that has happened, know that Karen Freeman was really the catalyst of it all.  And she, of course, would say that it was ALL God.

We really have had and continue to have a front row seat at what God does.  I’m glad that Karen was sitting right beside me the whole time!

 

Thirty things I learned in my 30’s

I love New Years, not because of parties as much as the idea of a new start!  A new year!  This is how I have felt about turning 40, which happened last Friday. Instead of being annoyed that I’m “getting old,” I really do just feel like its an opportunity for a new decade!  As many of you know I’m intentional and a planner, so turning 40 was no different.  I wrote this at 38 in preparation for this day.  One of my friends keeps teasing me that she’s never known anyone to plan for a birthday like me.  Again, it’s nothing about parties or birthday plans as much as being intentional, being focused and on mission for who God has created me to be.

If I’m honest my 30’s was for sure my hardest decade so far. So part of my desire for my 40’s is to get out of it.  I also will admit that I have learned THE MOST in my 30’s than any other decade.

So in honor of turning 40, here are 30 things I learned  in my 30’s…

In relationship with God

  1. The absolute best thing I have grasped onto and KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt to be true, is that God really does satisfy… more than food, alcohol, relationships, work, ministry, vacations, money, etc.  God really does satisfy ALL our needs if we go to Him in relationship.
  2. I’ve been reminded again recently that we REALLY can’t earn our own salvation!  I know this is biblical, and I’ve been hearing it since I was young. However even in my attempts to hit 40 well… I learned scripture, read, fasted, prayed, started new ministries, told people about Jesus, etc., God has had to show me over and over it’s what I DO!  I still fall short.  My flesh still takes over some days.  I still need a Savior, because I can’t DO enough good things, even Spiritual things.
  3. Scripture is LIFE GIVING.  Just read it or listen to it. It has power!
  4. God is a God that we bow down to at the throne AND climb up on His lap because He is our father!
  5. We can learn new spiritual disciplines.  I don’t know why, but this was an amazing new revelation for me.  I didn’t used to love prayer, but about 7 years ago learned to love it and would now call myself a prayer warrior. The same thing happened with scripture memory.  If we desire a spiritual gift/discipline and move toward it, God will help us grow in that discipline.
  6. Prayer rooms are THE BEST!  There’s something about a space where the only thing you do there is interact with the Creator of the Universe. 99C9E57D-7B51-49F1-A192-38ABB1E90329
  7. Christians still sin. Somehow we have too often talked about Sin as though we did that “before we were saved” but never talk about continuing to struggle with sin and temptation. I remember just last year someone saying, “You don’t sin. You’re Noelle Beck.” I was so shocked and confused by this statement. I do absolutely still sin! It’s why we STILL need Jesus! And I am amazingly grateful for his continual grace!
  8. We are free!!! Jesus really has set us free, and we don’t have to be bound by guilt, shame, unforgivenss or decisions of the past. Jesus really did pay the price, we are FREE!  (Galatians 5:1)2241F878-019D-42F9-A702-1CDD3F4CE56D
  9. Anything that drives us more than God is an idol. My largest revelation of an idol in my life is when I realized fear was an idol. (1 John 5:21)69C6D297-B832-4D52-BA44-A5CD74841602
  10. What you put in your mind really does impact you. For most of my life I assumed this was a conservative or legalistic mindset. But in my 30’s I’ve recognized how much it helps when I’m not intentionally destructive things in my mind. The less I make the dark and sinful things the norm, the more my mind can stay present with the spirit (Romans 8:6). 63E9344E-CD8F-4D3B-9EE3-2EC020FB3D09
  11. Complete trust in God and grief/disappointment CAN co-exist.  One does not negate the other.
  12. Everything is a gift!  We really DON’T DESERVE anything from God. He owes us nothing!330CC22D-003A-4F97-BF06-11C82D3F2018

In Relationship & Leadership (several of these apply to both)

  1. Words of LIFE are so powerful!  It’s amazing how much we can encourage others by simple words of the positives we see, rather than the negatives.  I don’t know why we wait for birthdays or funerals to talk about how great a person is.  We need to say it all along the way. Even a one line text goes a long way.
  2. My friend Kara Ulmer says, “If you really love someone you, you genuinely want what’s best for them.” Although this sentence seems simple, if you pay close attention, sometimes you will see what you thought you were doing for someone else really is about you. And similarly, you notice when someone’s desire to do something for you is really about themselves.
  3. In relationships, forgiveness eventually comes.  So move toward it sooner rather than spending days in anger, hurt and resentment.
  4. Relationship over rule needs to be applied the majority of the time. Sometimes I create disciplines, especially with eating and exercise. But I try never to let the “rule” of my eating interrupt my relationship, especially when my niece asks to go for ice cream.
  5. Understand the root of the issue. When someone is interacting or responding in a particular way, work to understand the root of what is happening. It could be something they were taught, a habit, something they are unaware of, are protecting themselves from hurt, or something else. When we understand why someone is responding in a particular way, it often has little to do with us.
  6. Don’t give power to people who don’t have power. Often we give people power over us who shouldn’t have it. We allow particular people’s opinions to change our behavior, rather than doing what we know is best for us or for what God has asked us to do. In addition we elevate people to place of power or authority that also don’t have it. Lebron James often is worshiped more than Jesus, but he really is just a kid from Akron.
  7. Time is one of your most valuable assets.  Be intentional with where it goes. You can’t get it back, and sometimes we spend it in the wrong spaces.
  8. Leadership is about EMPOWERING others to live up to their potential.
  9. Learn from EVERYONE.  Don’t be the expert. Allow others to be the expert, encourage it in them and learn from them.
  10. Intentionality and vision keeps you from ending up where you didn’t mean to be.

And in my personal opinion 🙂

  1. Embrace who you are! I didn’t own who I was for many years of my life. Now I do, which is why I can share these very important insights with you.
  2. Jeeps are the best vehicles. No doors is freeing and feels like vacation! A7DA5FE4-6CB1-4EEF-B6F6-E086FC27068E
  3. Apple over PC. Every. Single. Time.
  4. Converse and glasses are the best accessories. D4AB99B7-EFFB-4361-9CCF-FCE98B164576
  5. A ruler is a necessity in your Bible for straight lines. B5D1F4DC-2B0C-43B0-B2E6-1ABE4341D873
  6. There is an app for every thing and they make you even more efficient.
  7. Coffee is only delicious frothy! ACB8E07E-3FE8-4296-94A8-A442A084F140
  8. Tim is always the cutest man in the room…especially with his recently shaved head.28945189-E4E8-4CDD-B5D3-D59E8A8C9135

I’m excited for my 40’s.  I’m excited to continue to apply all that I’ve learned to this next decade… knowing full well, I’ll have to keep learning some of those lessons.